Elia Contemplative as She Watches TV in the Wee Hours

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Another picture that won’t make any collage, but that I like for some reason. After going to bed and falling asleep with Erin, Elia will often wake up when Curie goes up to bed. I  then take her downstairs to watch some TV before she sleeps again.  Again, I love the color interplay in the shot and the seriousness of her concentration with her chin on the cup.

I have been changing all our lights to almost all 5000 to 6500K “daylight” CFL bulbs to complement the lightbox-like effect of the closed translucent white shades we have in the living room in the day time. I had been getting weird colored lighting from the hall and kitchen mixed in, so now those are pretty white too. The only places that still have incandescent (2600K) lighting are the bathroom (Curie says the light there is yellow and I need to fix it), and the chandeliers, which I refuse to pay the premium for LED lights there and instead have neodymium Reveal GE lights at about 2850K. This shot is lit with two CFLs in a standing lamp and the chandelier side-lighting (explaining the warmth in the lighting) and the TV giving the low reflecting light to achieve the faux-Rembrandt lighting effect.

Almost all of my DSLR photography is shot at 85mm wide open at 1.4 handheld. This was aperture priority at a shutter of 1/100. Picture is contrast corrected with a hint of fill but not color corrected and cropped to 5×7 for effect. The movie was Lilo and Stitch on Netflix and the drink Horizon whole milk with added DHA in a Munchkin snap-close sippy cup. Floppy Bunny is a light blue medium sized Peep plush from the Peep store at National Harbor.

Added from Facebook: Not long after this shot she put the sippy cup aside put her head down put her butt in the air a la Marty McFly, and fell asleep.

Thomas Land at Edaville

We went the second week it opened and they were not ready for prime time yet. Many buildings unfinished, no concessions really, restrooms not constructed yet, and a few rides not open- it’s no Disneyland – but from the kids’ perspective? True magic.

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Having each of the engines or characters in full size was pretty cool. The adults did spend a huge chunk of time talking through how they could have done it better and made more money.

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Magic for the kids, both were young enough to be totally into it. We did have amusement park meltdown at the end, but that was not unexpected.

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Erin’s parents treated us to the park and the kids loved being with them.

Curie Up Late Feeling Sick on Vacation

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One of the biggest challenges of being a parent is when your kids get sick. Here is Curie with the coxsackie virus (hand foot mouth) where she couldn’t eat anything and was profoundly sad that even the ice cream and cookies she thought she might be able to handle hurt her mouth. We are at the hotel evaluating if she could fly the next day to go to Thomas Land in Edaville the second week after opening (she got a lot better the next day).

I found this shot and color striking, this is the shot unfiltered and unedited except to crop to 8 x 10. The lighting for this one is just from the tablet. ISO 1600, hand held at 1/40 and F1.4 on an 85mm prime.

Elia August 2015

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Elia August 2015. What a great age. Curie sang Elia Twinkle Twinkle Little Star late at night and Elia put her fingers together to do the twinkle then raised them above her arms and sang “ubabubawawahi” which, for those of you non-parents, is “up above the world so high;” it was cute enough to bring tears to one’s eye. We then sang a number of songs where she knew the hand motions, like Itsy Bitsy Spider and most impressively, Wheels on the Bus. Curie loved the song at this age too and did the hand motions, but for those of you who are wont to compare, it was like a first child all over again, because she was just discovering it for herself and the fact that she was so proud made you proud for her. Now, her wheels on the bus is like her “roll it” in Patty Cake, which is as if you were turning a giant set of bicycle pedals with your hands, but not really making a circle – well, more like if she was milking a cow, but for a 19 month old, so very cute.

When you sing or read to her, she wants to do it over and over again. Elia loves to stand on our lap (or Albert’s belly) and hold your hands to sing Row Row Row Your Boat, while she leans way back on each row. She will quietly mouth the words and sing an occasional “woh, woh, woh,” and something that sounds like “merrily.” She still does not talk so much as imitates words or sounds like “bread and butter.” or some song. She does have some new words though, she has added “bye” to “hi” when talking on Albert’s KRZR, and says something like “dada, call,” but we might be reading into it (in fact, Albert has taken to interpreting Elia’s words to whatever they sound like, no matter how off-color). In addition to saying “wuff, wuff, wuff” if you ask her what a dog says, she will say “baa” and “tu tu” for sheep and train respectively. Her favorite book is a Curious George book where she will point out the dog, cat, pigeon, and monkey.

At her last doctor’s visit she is still in single digits in percentile and, while she is okay, the doctor recommended that we add good fats to her diet. She is physically denser than Curie so it is weird to see that she is smaller and lighter. Also unbeknownst to us, Elia’s second group of lower front teeth came in.

Elia’s voice is lower than Curie’s and she definitely wants to do whatever Curie is doing, but does have some of her own things: she loves to play the full piano and will cry when it is time to stop; she will sit in the blue car or on the Kettler tricycle even when it is not moving; and loves her helmet (hats in general) and shoes.

All is not moonlight and roses however, as she went through a biting phase biting both of us separately. Albert on the shoulder and Erin on the neck. She fell down the stairs twice, once head over heels down four stairs and the other down half a flight that Curie saw; she is okay, but what a scare. She has fallen off the bed more than Curie now, and at a restaurant recently, fell off the bench and slipped between the table and the booth hitting her head on the wall. Mosquitos love her even more than Albert (which is amazing) where she had seven mosquito bites on one arm that were inflamed and angry. Elia doesn’t know how to scratch yet, so she would rub her arm like she was trying to take off a long rubber glove.

It isn’t that she is so much the daredevil that she has no fear, she definitely has that, she wasn’t comfortable ice skating (indoors) with either of us until Albert took her out with a hockey stick so she could lean against that in the crook of her underarm pit (Curie used a bucket to push around), so she is definitely afraid, but it might simply be that she wants so much to be able to do what Curie does that she thinks that if Curie can do it, so can she. And so she imitates, and not just Curie; Albert was resting his head with his elbow on the table and his fist against his cheek, and Elia put her own fist against her cheek, albeit without the elbow on the table, to imitate.

Elia loves letting Albert hug her, will climb up in your lap to eat a snack; holds hands with Curie when they walk around; drops (can’t really throw yet) pennies into fountains; bounces superballs – and lets them bounce away until she loses sight of them; picks up bowls and plates half-full of food to clean them up; points to her feet to put on new shoes or socks; points to her head to put on a hat; gives an impish grin, an upturned pout, or simply looks very proud of herself. She understands a lot more than you think, and can close a door, or throw away garbage when asked. She peeks around corners, keeps her fingers from the edge when pushing close a drawer, knows when the oven is hot, and knows how to push the buttons or a screen of a remote or a tablet. She climbs into your lap or up on your chest to rests her head on your belly or shoulder or leg. When she sits eating a popsicle,or watching TV, or reading her own book, she sidles up next to you so that your side is touching her side and without another thought, is very, very, content.

Curie July 2015

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Curie July 2015. And kids keep growing whether you want them to or not. It is hard to believe Curie is almost four but she has begun asking to sleep in her own room though she has slept in the family bed almost all of her life. Now, she does ask Albert to sit in the hall so that she can see him and he does promise to wait until she sleeps before he does, but just the desire to sleep by herself is such a change for us. Curie is so eager to be a big girl that she wanted a shower the other day even though she hates showers. We are so proud that she is so proud of herself, how cool is that?

We have been responding to Curie’s changing sleep patterns (unlike Elia who has decided that she lives in the other hemisphere and has jet lag), and have made simple rules for sleeping when she said: “I don’t know how to sleep.” 1) Lay down. 2) Close your eyes. 3) Take deep breaths. 4) Go to sleep. And amazingly she will recite them to you and try to sleep – let’s say 40% of the time.

We have begun realizing the importance of individual time. Time spent exclusively with a kid, or time for a kid to exclusively spend time with a parent. There is bonding time here, time to build the “core memories” that we can’t waste. Albert spent time with the kids when they were sick because he was at home, but Erin has made a significant effort to take time off from work to spend with the kids, and that has been immeasurable in her relationship with Curie and Elia. In the end, Erin still gets more “I love you the best”s from Curie and is the one the kids want when things go wrong, but there is definitely a Daddy’s girl beginning – not that we are competing or anything (seriously, we are not competing, how wonderful is it to see your most precious in wonderment at the one you love?).

Curie had a scary staph infection over her eye earlier that we were lucky to catch at the urgent care and then the pediatrician. What was interesting was her reaction to the medicine. You may recall our traumatizing experience with penicillin earlier forcing her down to give her the medication. This time we started with her wailing and crying about the antibiotics, to bribing her, to cajoling, but one day while she was crying she took the medicine and we asked her “so if we just make you take it, it is all right?” And she said “yes” (boundaries?), then the next day she took it without crying, only saying she wished it wasn’t white, and then after she was more and more okay with it until she was proud she could take the medication. All of this in ten days, remarkable, isn’t it?

Curie still loves Elia going so far as to call Elia her best friend and one night while Elia was nursing Elia held onto Curie’s arm compelling Curie to say “it’s the first time she has done that!” This is not to say they don’t fight, don’t ever let blogs and social media rewrite history to be so rosy, Elia is of the age where the little car Curie loved fits her now, but Curie still loves her car and they often will have to decide who gets to ride it and who pushes (yes, Elia likes to push too, but not very far), fortunately Curie likes to push too. And when Elia wouldn’t listen to her while playing trains, she began taking apart the train set so that no one could play with it.

Curie has begun telling jokes and loves to ask Alexa, our Amazon Echo from Erin’s father, Jim to tell her a joke, or tell her the weather. Apologized to Erin one night about asking Erin not to sit next to her earlier in the day. She has new found manual dexterity to build block towers, Duplos, and train tracks. But  most importantly this month, she finally saw Frozen, no joke – we have let her see the “Let it go” video and part of the “Do You Want to Build a Snowman” song, but for a girl so obsessed with Elsa (Albert is okay with queens, but not helpless princesses), it is amazing that she has not seen the movie. You see, she had her own version of what happens, that was flawed. Something about using her powers to be get away from Anna and be alone (sort of true, but not really) because she would rather be alone. To disabuse her of the notion she got to see the whole thing with some chaperoning, and of course she loved it.

So Curie is growing up, but gratefully, she still wants her parents. She is opinionated and rambunctious, lively and wonderful: getting back to sleeping, Curie does still “miss Mommy” and goes back to the master bedroom from time to time to sleep with her and Elia. She does still want to play instead of sleep and (often provoked by Albert) will get out of control, but with the sleep rules reinforced, she will settle down, and sometimes when it is necessary,  Albert will put his hand on her back and tell her in no uncertain terms, “Curie, you are safe. You are loved,” and more often than not, moments later, she will be asleep.

The Chen Engineering Company

Recently Erin instituted mandatory play at the house to curb screen time which has resulted in bringing the slide and basketball hoop from the basement to the living room for Elia and Curie to play, there is piano playing, drawing, painting, pig pile on Mommy, elephant and horsey rides and all manners of roughhousing that you might imagine for an almost four and a one-and-a-half year old.

But there is a little bit of time when Elia and Erin go up for a bath that becomes Daddy and Curie engineering time where Curie’s imagination gets to run wild and Albert helps her make her ideas a reality (Elia is still in the knocking-down-is-more-fun-than-the-frustration-of-not-being-able-to-build-yet phase – though she has started playing trains without tearing up the track). To be fair, Erin has long built houses with Curie ever since she was a toddler. The reason for this post though is that in recent months Curie has become much more dextrous in her ability to build and create.

We have three train sets, a Duplo one, a wooden Thomas/Chuggington/IKEA/Brio set, and a VTech track from Shawn and Chris and Cy and Librada. Erin’s father and Curie had a great time building tracks, but here is a recent Chen Engineering Company production:

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If you haven’t played with Kapla, they are precisely cut blocks of all the same shape that you build in to amazing things. They used to be very expensive, but recently Ikea started making their own. Curie wanted to build a house for her Playmobil, Octonaut, and Frozen figures to live. One thing led to another and here we are:

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There are Lego sets that are amazing recreations of things from the VW Camper van to the Star Destroyer to architectural sets, essentially models made of Lego. But Lego and Duplo were really about creativity back in the day. We have a Duplo set that Suephy and Ed handed down to us that Curie and Elia play with. The other night Curie wanted to build a restaurant so here is a table with nine chairs, a stair case to the oven (where we were cooking Sven and Pabbi – don’t ask), and Joy and Sadness as Giants were looking on. If you look carefully Sir Topham Hat and some strawberry girl were eating with two Playmobil people. The trees were from a previous project:

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