George’s Family Visits

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So George, Yischon, Luiz (Maximillian) and I have been friends for 35 years (George and Yischon even longer), and perhaps it is because we know that every time we are together that the years melt away whenever we see each other, but we forget to see each other from time to time, its been 7 years since I last saw George, 11 years since I saw Carmen and Olivia, and I had not yet met Sophia. We had such a great time with them that It made me remember how good it is to hang out with such good friends. We look forward to spending some time together soon. Thank you!

This weekend we had a sad passing that made our time together even more precious in perspective. We can’t wait so long between visits and we need to make it a point for the four of us need to spend time together soon.

“I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?” -Stand By Me (1986)

Elia June 2016

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In fairly stressful times it is always nice to know that if you sit with you child for a while and appreciate the moment, that you will forget the outside for just a moment and live in the bubble with your child.

Elia continues to blossom and is finding her identity in the family. She is territorial about her food like Dylan was but still wants the same things that Curie wants. She loves watching “eggs,” and wants to pick what we watch first “me pick!” And will even cry if she is not given the chance.

She is adorable and funny, almost not realizing she is funny. We asked the kids who has the best sister? Elia said “Jie-jie’s best sister” which could be interpreted as I think Ji-jie has the best sister, me, or Jie-jie is the best sister, either way, very cute. Continue reading “Elia June 2016”

Curie May 2016

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Reading the notes for this post, things on it seem so long ago.

Curie went to her first martial arts class to see if she would be comfortable there with if she did after school activities, and Albert had an empathetic conniption remembering the discomfort he had with anything new at that age; Curie is a much stronger soul apparently because though she was learning while she was participating, she loved it. Afterward, she wanted to play martial arts and be the teacher while showing us what we were supposed to do including when to stand and when to sit. She told all her friends she was going to learn to fight like Rey, and Albert’s emotional fragility aside, we will likely enroll her even if she doesn’t need it for after school.

In this time we have had a bit of a rough time while trying to rent out our old house. Albert was not getting enough sleep, had some vertigo and generally was not taking care of himself. Curie in her infinite and innocent caring told Albert: “Dada, get some rest okay?” And another time when he was so tired that he had his head in his hands, she asked “Dada, why are you sad?” What an amazing girl.

For the longest time we called Froot Loops vacation Cheerios and that is what Curie would call them but in this month she identified them as Froot Loops in the store making us feel a little sad that she was growing up; we want her to be everything she is supposed to be, but we can’t help feel that we want her as her little girl too. We need to enjoy each moment including the whining and a crying and embrace each step.

Curie loves My Little Pony but understands that the new over sexualized ponies as girls are bad, just like she knows we don’t like Barbie except for the doctor one. Well anyway, we indulge her quite a bit with blind bags (which Elia has picked up) and has been trying to get a Princess Celestia. Well, Albert being the softy realized that we were better off spending a little more on eBay or Amazon buying someone who already got Princess Celestia and bought it for her. Of course not thinking things through, he only bought one and when the package arrived, Elia wanted hers, leading Albert to have to buy another. Note, after getting it, Elia has not played with it – of course.

We started making our own surprise eggs which is just as good for Curie as she makes her own surprise eggs videos as well. We don’t post any, but we have a 12 minute video of her opening eggs and narrating. She is quite good and we think it is good for her self-esteem.

We went to California at the end of the month for Erin’s work and found that Curie fit in a booster seat with a high back, so it might be time soon to change car seats for her. She was amazing on the trip, and we were terrible parents having her get up so early and sleeping so little. She held it together pretty well though, and was so good pulling the large car seat bag in the airport.

We say it a lot, and we’ll say it a lot more we love our girls, and the girls love each other. This month Curie asked Elia if she loved her, and finally got the response she wanted. With hugs, with family pictures, with holding hands insisting on prayers at the table, insisting that we eat at the dinner table at all, resting on our shoulder, telling us she loves us, Curie continues to light up our lives and fills us with an almost overwhelming sense of caring for her.

Kula in Torrance, the new best sushi conveyor belt restaurant

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So we loved the now closed DC Union Station Yo! Sushi, a conveyor belt restaurant chain based in the UK so much that we pilgrimaged to NJ to go to the one there but it was not as impressive and seemingly more expensive. We also love Kula in California which is $2.25 for every plate, and as good or even better variety. Well we went to the Torrance location yesterday with Maximillian and were blown away at the remodel.

Let me try to explain the picture, normal sushi conveyor belt but the plate covers pop up out of the way when you pull on the plate. When you are done you put the plate in a slot at your table which adds it up on the iPad/tablet. If you put in 5 plates an ongoing story line plays as a cartoon. If you put in 15, you get a surprise toy dispensed from the machine up above (which Curie loved – Elia was asleep). But ostensibly the coolest part was the second high speed conveyor belt between the normal one and the tablet. You order on the tablet, and the food shows up next to your table, we had to order things just to have them zip up to the table. Julie and Steve, this is by far our favorite seafood restaurant now.

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I just spent the last hour walking the halls of a sleeping house holding Elia and singing her to sleep. Life is very, very, good.

Elia May 2016

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Elia is at that phase in life where her growth is outpacing our story-telling. At the beginning of the month she had just started saying “yeas” instead of “ya” and we quickly jotted this down. As the month progressed she could identify the animals from our zoo trip: “a da da dur,” alligator, “tee ta”, cheeta, and “cow,” bison. Her sentences started with “Ji-ji, pay?” Jie-jie will you play? to “Dada, me poo-poo, hep peas,” Daddy, I need to poo-poo in the potty, help please.

She has gone from “Ya-ya,” to “Ee-ya,” to “Lia.” When she asks what is this she says “that is?” Especially when it comes to Star Wars cards, she asks us who is on the card, “that is?”

The sophistication in her understanding and diction has come out in her speech as well. She started the bad habit of needing to “wash ecks daddy ipah,” watch eggs on Daddy’s iPad, which in turn translates into watch kids YouTube on Albert’s iPad. The other day she woke Erin up by telling her she had a bug on her face, and then when Erin jumped up rubbing her face and saying where? Elia then laughed and said “nooo” in a just kidding way.

She not only understands, but processes complex ideas and remembers them. Curie had her plan of giving us time to go to the movies a month ago, but that was delayed because of a snow storm. Curie had wanted Poppup and Grandmom to watch them so that we could see Star Wars (actually not Star Wars, but Curie had assumed we would want to see Star Wars because we had gone to Udvar and did this two viewing exchange with the kids when it came out). So we didn’t do it then, but when Poppup and Grandmom were coming this time, Curie said, “we need to do the plan,” and Elia spoke up, mind you no one had said anything about Star Wars, “Mama, Daddy, Star Wars.”

At the beginning of the month we were impressed the Elia wanted to use the potty, now she will ask almost every time. Earlier, loved to play with her horse, now rides the back of the couch pretending it is a horse: a shift in imagination. She buckles her own car seat chest buckle now, and has her own opinion when it comes to surprises. Curie will want ponies, Elia will want “sopkins,” Shopkins, or Star Wars cards.

Other things have happened too, she spilled Albert’s semi-permanent blue-black fountain pen ink all over her hands and feet, she wanted to learn martial arts when Curie went to take her class, she called it Star Wars though since we had talked to Curie about learning to fight like Rey. When we went to Dave and Buster’s she loved the coin game; when it came time to spend her 5,000 tickets, her first choice was a foot high Superman doll from the Animated Adventures of Superman, though she calls it “batman.”

At the end of the month, (the 15th for the purposes of this blog), she finally got her own back pack from REI. Curie has had hers for so long now but only recently started wearing it. Part of this is getting ready for school, but it is good to carry her toys. Elia loves luggage, she loves to pull a carry on, push luggage, and as it turns out, wear a back pack. She had been wearing the carry-on because she did not have her own back pack. So Albert bought her her own REI back pack, pink with green zippers. She loves her “pak-pak” so much that she wears it into the car seat to be buckled together with it. She is so pleased with it and takes it everywhere, she loves it almost as much as Star Wars, but not quite.

While Grandmom and Poppup were visiting Elia fell while gardening and bit the front and back of her lower lip, we thought it might have gone through, or would leave a scar. Albert had gone to Home Depot but Erin says there was a lot of blood. Scary, and at the same time it showed how resilient they are. She was laughing and eating meat later that night. No stitches, just Neosporin and hydrogen peroxide, and now, a few weeks later, it looks like we might have gotten lucky and it won’t scar much. We say it a lot, parenting is hard and it can be stressful, but it is also amazing and we wouldn’t give it up for the world.

Curie April 2016

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So perhaps it is because May the Fourth is around the corner but most likely it is a coincidence, but Albert showed parts of Star Wars: The Force Awakens to Curie (and Elia) this month. We started with Rey and Finn in the Millennium Falcon with Albert holding Curie as he does  playing rocketship and mimicked the movements on the screen. She, of course, loved it; but here is the thing, she loved it even more because the main character was a girl, and strong, and in charge, and as parents, we loved that even more. Continue reading “Curie April 2016”