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Toronto and Niagara Falls Vacation August 2016
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Elia August 2016
August was our family vacation to Toronto and Niagara falls. We were originally going to Japan with our friends the Hoaglands, but with the house not yet rented we didn’t feel comfortable spending so much money. We ended up going to Toronto and Niagara for a fifth the price.
Elia’s diction and vocabulary have really taken off this month. She no longer is measured in her speech when she makes sentences and has begun talking a lot. She is still working on learning new things but it is cute as all get out.
She uses “me” for “I,” so “me no no dat is,” is “I don’t know what that is.” Or simply Me no no,” “I don’t know.” Better yet, “What dat? … Me no no.” We love how she calls things at: the moment: “Um nom noms,” are M&Ms, “wipers” for “wipes.” Sometimes she runs around just saying “blah, blah, blah.” But she is pretty articulate when she wants to be, it is her syntax that cracks us up: “Me get another one book.” or “Me eat another one bite.” “Dat too tary (scary).” “Me love Hi fi (Hi5).”
Then there are really cute ones like: “Me strong like Rey. Me strong like Rey and Finn,” or “Dada pay me, pay ball.” We introduced the kids to several versions of Cinderella this month with Elia entranced by the ball scenes. She LOVES the “Slippery and Rose” movie (The Slipper and the Rose), and Ever After. The best is that she calls Cinderella “Fa la le la” or just “La le la.” She has however started to say “lello” instead of “yellow,” and that might be a Curie influence as she says “lello.”
We’ll leave many of the Toronto, Niagara Falls exploits to that blog post, but there were a few things for Elia of note. She remembers the name of her pony “Merlin (her first),” knows that the ferris wheel was “too tary” for her, that the bears made her dizzy because Albert spun them “too fast.” It is better to just watch her description on the video. We bought her a plastic boat (jet ski) and she asked to roll the window down. Curie said she dropped the boat out the side, which we thought she meant on the side of her car seat, but Elia had thrown her boat out the window. Albert rescued it from the road, fortunately we were at the parking lot of the hotel. And then, Elia didn’t want to climb up the CN tower, until we explained it was only taking the elevator up and not actually climbing the outside, she said then said “okay.”
Elia had her first hair cut the same day Curie did and though she did not need holding hands, she did not smile until it was over. Instead of watching the video of Peppa Pig, she looked at the mirror to see what the stylist was doing.
So Elia is quite head strong, pushing bigger kids out of the way on the slide, she is willful too, having definite opinions (though many are either contrary or the same as Curie’s). She has begun hitting and spitting recently which initially Albert just rasberried back into Elia’s face, Erin thought Elia’s surprised reaction was hilarious, but we are working on a better way of handling her acting up than just reacting. Elia loves to make scrambled eggs cracking and mixing the eggs. The only thing she doesn’t do is actually cook them. She is still the daredevil, loving being lifted, and loved when Albert would drop a ball over her head only to catch it right before hitting her as she lay down.
Elia really wants the company and attention and will insist you sit next to her or near her, or she will sidle up to you or sit in your lap. She always wants “mouk” at the end of the day, but will insist on “mouk on the couch.” In the morning she wants to go “downtairs!” Insistently, right when she wakes up. She knows how to count, sort of, and can tell you what the animals are and what sounds they make. She was playing with the animals and farm and kept saying “dis be?” Which we thought it meant “what is this?” Which we thought was surprising since she can tell you what the animals are, but we realized she meant “where do these go?” And then true to her nature (OCD inherited from Albert) she put them in the same places over and over again. Albert’s favorite Elia noise? “Onk onk.”
Elia describing our trip to Centreville on the Toronto Islands
We have not yet posted our blog or photos for our trip to Toronto and Niagara Falls, but here is Elia describing our first full day at Centreville, a little amusement park on the Toronto Islands. Her first car and pony by herself. Erin was quite nervous and proud. The video is four minutes and exceeds our media upload limit, so click here.
First Haircuts
Curie had never had her haircut and it tended to look scraggly if it wasn’t brushed, which was often. Erin was determined to have Curie have her first hair cut before kindergarten. Elia’s hair has been growing out too so we decided just to have them both have their first haircut at the same time.
The obligatory before and after photos with the “First Haircut Certificate;” they even saved a little lock from the first cut for each girl.
Curie was definitely more worried and held Albert’s hand the whole time. Good thing they had Peppa Pig playing.
Elia wanted to get her haircut too, and watched the hair stylist instead of watching Peppa Pig. She didn’t need hand holding.
Curie July 2016
When your kids are the most important thing in the world, it is easy to lose our identity and only be the parents of your kids. At the same time, in times of trouble sometimes your kids are the only thing that get you through. At this age Curie is beyond some of the more simple milestones, but well into the more sophisticated realm of understanding and humor.
Curie loves to frame her caring and some of her self-worth in her connection to Elia. She is proud of when Elia can do something, “Mommy, its her first word (when it well is not)!” She feels loved when Elia holds her hand “Mommy, look, Elia is holding my hand!” And she cries when Elia is too busy to hug her. As we teach the kids about being beautiful from within, we shouldn’t be surprised when they do act in amazing ways, but we are.
Julie and Steve finally got engaged, and Erin mentioned that we would have to buy an engagement gift for them, at some point. Later in the day, when we were at the mall to have lunch, Curie insisted on going for a walk with Albert. Once away from the restaurant, Curie said to Albert, “we need to buy a present.” “For whom?” Albert asked. “For Julie and Steve!” And she did, she picked out a black insulated water bottle for Steve and a matching red water bottle for Julie, and gave it to Julie to open – note that she did want to see Julie open it, even before Steve was there.
Then Albert gave Curie money for her to buy her own prizes for herself and Elia at the toy store. Once there, she made it a point to buy everyone a present, because, in her words, “it wouldn’t be fair” if only Julie and Steve got gifts.
In recent days, as she gets tired and frustrated, she runs to the landing on the stairs to the basement and sits there to be by herself and cry for a while. Albert often sits with her and holds her until she calms down. It is a learning time for her as she learns to adjust to learning boundaries and dealing with her emotions. The reality is that she needs to get more sleep, but she doesn’t want to miss the fun.
She loves running “super-fast” and asks you to watch her. One of their favorite past times is when Curie and Elia “run around the kitchen” which entails running through the kitchen, through the dining room, and back around to the kitchen. They take off their socks to make sure they don’t slip and run pell mell through the house.
She is experimenting with mock surprise recently as well. She loves to cock her head and open her eyes and mouth wide and say “bah?” As if surprised for the first time at something. She will also say things like “what? I like” this or that. We are learning to do things other than watch TV and buy toys and have gone so far as to buy Plasticine clay to make our own figures. We made a family with a silicone clay mold, and she loved it. We made a little frog and worm after and Elia appropriated them and took them to school in plastic eggs. Since then we have made our own chocolates in the molds and made figures two more times, making them to look like superheroes.
Curie loves superheroes and loved to watch the Metroman parts of Megamind. She has also been watching the Incredibles and loves Mr. Incredible and Violet. When we went to sign her up for her martial arts class for after school, she watched the ongoing martial arts class in rapture.
In the last few days, she has wanted to spend time with Albert and Erin at different times, and has wanted to garden as one of the play dates. She remembers the times with Albert when he used to stay up with her to watch things, and when we were watching Annie with Elia, Curie spoke up to say that she used to spend time watching it with Albert.
Curie has started changing her tastes, re-engaged in water play, found new things smelly and gross, liked new foods, and stopped liking others. Grape flavored fluoride is okay now, and mint is not. She likes her noodles with the sauce now, but no longer likes green beans. She loves mashed potatoes and gravy from KFC and will drink the gravy, but does not like butter. She knows that she shouldn’t eat sugar, but loves that we give her sugarless treats.
Life is challenging and meant to be, and while having kids makes the stakes higher, they also give us reason to exist and persevere. As Curie, and Elia, grow, the interactions become more complex as they develop their personalities and identities. It is a challenge to understand that they must grow out of us, and a fleeting, aching, parental caring that they still love you unconditionally. It is almost not enough to to use the word “love” to talk about our kids, and at the same time the word “love” is impossibly big, know what we mean?
An Extra One
Clockwise from top left, Elia copying Curie’s pose, holding on Mommy and Daddy’s head, too much chocolate ice cream yelling “‘prise!”at the mall, and her sun glasses that we won at Flight months ago that she is proud of.
Elia July 2016
So we have been using Waze lately instead of Google Maps (maps has a better interface, but the crowd sourcing in Waze seems to give better directions). For a while we had T-Pain as our voice and the kids loved it, In fact, Curie would request putting the “new GPS” on. For those of you who do not know, T-Pain is an autotuned rapper who sings the directions: “I’m T-Pain, you gonna see, Ima gonna get you from A to Z.” So we would sing along to his directions and unconsciously sing it around the kids. Recently Elia had a great reaction, After Albert sang the “I’m T-pain…” part, Elia protested and said, “me T-Pain, you bad guys”
Another day, Erin had taken Elia into the bathroom at a restaurant and Elia spied a Windex bottle. She asked Erin “wat dat for?” Erin responded that it was for cleaning mirrors. Without missing a beat, Elia asked, “na spray mama face?”
The kids love to play frozen powers and heat queen to freeze and unfreeze. In the car, Curie was talking about frozen powers to which Elia said that she had “Star Wars Frozen powers,” which we can only imagine what that would be like. Speaking of Star Wars, Elia loves the Force Awakens and anything Star Wars. There is a giant First Order Storm Trooper that Elia loves to push its button as we mentioned before; most recently though she will go up to it, call it her friend, and hold its hand. We have a blue and green light saber at home (not real ones of course, that would be dangerous) and Elia has taken to fighting with them. Now, you really do need to defend yourself, because Elia goes all out and goes for your head and your face and swings really hard. She will walk up to you with both light sabers and hand you the green one (the blue one is Rey’s so it is hers), then once activated she will go at you at will. Steve was game for this kind of fight so played with her and would fall once hit. Elia liked this so much that she also wanted to fall melodramatically and drop her light saber; so her fight became one touch of the light saber against her opponent’s and then a melodramatic pretend-fall coming to rest on the floor.
The second time in the pool this summer Elia still liked jumping into the pool but at one point pushed Albert away seeing that most other kids were swimming by themselves; she did not want anyone to hold her as she swam with her floaties. Because she did it first, it pushed Curie into jumping into the pool and swimming by herself. We’ll send them to swim class this summer.
Elia has been saying all sorts of funny things like “me baby” then after a pause “cute.” When she had a diaper rash she walked bow-legged and said “my butt hurts.” Which sound funny because Curie always said “bum” instead of “butt.” It is like hearing baby sailor talk. When playing with Albert once, Elia raised one finger to indicate that there was only on blind box left on her show. Albert raised his finger too and she laughed. Then she said it was her “thumb,” to which Albert corrected, “no, no, that is your finger, this is your thumb,” raising his thumb. Then she couldn’t copy it until Albert held her thumb and she closed her fist. Albert wiggled his thumb and she laughed hysterically. The next day, Curie and Elia were in the car, and after a period of quiet, Elia spoke up “Mommy, thumb!” Holding a thumbs up and very proud of herself. Right now if you ask her where is her thumb she will look at her hand for a while and then make the thumbs up sign.
Erin was away on a trip at the end of Elia’s month (ending on the 15th) which meant that Albert had the kids. Curie had a fever which Albert caught. So sick single parenting the kids ran a little bit wild. Albert fed them sugar-free Reese’s peanut butter cups and sugar free Squirt. But the saddest part was when Elia missed Erin and found her nursing cover. It must smell like milk and Mommy, because Elia held it crying and used it as a blanket crying herself to sleep.
Curie June 2016
The challenges of daily life are softened a lot by having kids, in the past month, we have not rented our house, had our VW Bug go into the shop 3 times, had our American Express hacked, and gotten sick. But that is all made okay by having our kids to take our minds off of these worries and give us perspective.
As we said in Elia’s blog, we went to California this month and spent some time with Bernard and Agnes’s family. Curie loves Eleanor and Miranda, which we suspect is because she sees them as role models. We also blogged about Kula in Torrance, but if you think of it from Curie’s perspective, she loves “sushi choo-coo” restaurants, loves surprise eggs, and loves cartoons. This restaurant had it all. Never mind Uncle Luiz gave her (and Elia) a Shopkins play set!
Curie is precocious and very funny, one morning Curie put her legs on Erin’s in bed, and when Erin playfully told her to take them off, Curie took one off in a high pitched voice, then took the other off in a low pitched voice. Erin asked her what was going on, and Curie told her that one leg was a girl and one leg was a boy.
The Hoaglands have had us over to their local pool. Curie’s first pool experience was in this pool when Albert dunked her. It must have made an impression because she now does not like to have her face wet; so when we went back to the pool, Curie was a little tentative (Elia was a fish to water). Curie is older now and has outgrown the infant life-jackets, so she wore floaties for the first time. It turns out she can reach the bottom in the 3 ft end and loved the water and was learning to kick as long as we were holding her. The second time in the pool she found out that Elia was jumping in the pool and that Albert had let Elia float and swim by herself. This made her braver and soon she was also jumping and swimming by herself in the pool. We are thinking of swimming lessons for both of them.
Curie’s enamel in her teeth never formed properly being born early so has had some trouble with her teeth. We have begun to change our lifestyle to become more healthy. We need to for Curie, but we will all benefit from the change. What has resulted are some night terrors and a fear of brushing for a while. We are also applying fluoride, which only comes in three flavors, grape (Curie hates grape because it is the flavor of children’s Advil and reminds her of medicine), mint (she doesn’t like strong mint because it is too spicy), and bubble gum (which they were out of, and for toothpaste, she likes berry over bubble gum), so we got grape, and she screams at how disgusting it is every time we do it.
Curie is going to start kindergarten soon and it is amazing how fast it has gone. We will enroll her into an after school martial arts program and have her join some clubs. The upcoming change is so disconcerting; Albert’s job mainly deals with change management and part of that is understanding that when you are effecting change you are less afraid, but this is not our choice, it is just what is happening. At day care, changes are afoot as well. Julie is leaving Bright Horizons, and many of Curie’s classmates have had their last day. We intend on making a Facebook group of Curie’s closest friends as an alumni group for Bright Horizons so that we can stay in touch. An then there was the Pre-K graduation: because of a conference, Albert missed it, which really depressed him. Before it happened, he let Curie know that he was sorry and was sad that he would miss it. Curie in her wisdom said, “that’s all right, Daddy, I will remember the song for you.”