Curie September 2017

A sign of our times perhaps, but one of Curie’s milestones is that she can make Alexa work on her own with voice commands. When we first got the Amazon Echo, Curie would try, but her voice was too high or something and Alexa would not respond. Elia still can’t reliably make Alexa respond. It is similar to the remote control, Curie is proud of the fact that she can turn on, select the kid’s profile, find a show, select an episode and fast forward, reverse, and pause or play her show. We are just starting to teach Elia. Continue reading “Curie September 2017”

Elia September 2017

We have been reading a lot more to the kids recently (studies show that reading to kids is one of the best indicators of success in school later on), and Elia has been having us read more and more difficult books, not because she wants to hear the story necessarily, but because they are books the Curie has had us read to her. Most recently she has had us read the chess book that we got to start teaching the kids chess. She has enjoyed playing checkers her own way at Cracker Barrel stacking checkers and taking from each other, but recently Albert bought a nice checker set and began teaching Elia to play. She still is guided to where to move her pieces, but she loves to win. Continue reading “Elia September 2017”

Curie August 2017

It is difficult writing when behind as it is too easy to write about the now rather than the then. The biggest thing in August was that Curie began first grade! Not only did it feel like it came so fast, it was in fact faster because Fairfax county began school a week earlier than it had in the past starting the week before Labor Day. So it was that we only went to the pool once during the summer and that our vacation at the end of the time came close to ending right before the start of school. Continue reading “Curie August 2017”

Elia August 2017

Elia loves to be silly and we can’t remember if this is just being a three year old, or if this is just indicative of Elia being Elia. The fact is that she cracks us up, and more importantly and even more funny is that she cracks herself up. And while it is often the funny faces she is making or the way she is acting, more often than not, it is the funny things she says. The other day Albert was talking about peeing and Elia said “Daddy! That is potty talk!” She has a fantastic imagination telling us she shoots fireworks from her hands, or takes care of her “baby.” Continue reading “Elia August 2017”

Curie July 2017

This is the first year of summer camp for Curie and she really loved going to martial arts camp at EMA, but after going to Congressional Camp with her pre-school friends, she has quite fallen in love with the place. She likes being in the specialty camps learning different things and loves her counselors (they love her too) She has been to Congo Chemistry, Lego, Junior Architects, Eco Science, and will do Summer Adventures and Chess. The new schedule changed our commute with Erin taking Curie to camp and Albert taking Elia to school in separate cars. It has really allowed for some bonding with each kid, but it also means a bit of disproportionate time with each one. Continue reading “Curie July 2017”

Elia July 2017

Elia has worn her Belle dress 10 days in a row now, though she did go to Huntley meadows in regular clothes. She has worn the dress so much that the hem is in tatters and the dress is faded from washing; Albert bought both girls a new one in a larger size but they are too long for them at the moment. He wants to buy another size 3 for Elia because she insists on wearing it every day. In an earlier time we would have discouraged this, but somehow it is more cute than revolting now and perhaps the realization that these are fleeting times lets us be more forgiving for the princess industry. Also, knowing that Curie graduated to superheroes helps a lot.

Elia loves to roar a lot and will do so in the car or in the house or a restaurant or anywhere prompting Curie to hold her ears and say “too loud!” This only encourages Elia to do it more. It is quite funny as Elia holds her two fists in front of her and pulls her elbows back when she does it. She roars to be like lions or like dinosaurs or simply to be Elia getting her energy out.

Like Curie, she also loves holding Albert’s thumbs, and climbing up his torso to be flipped over backwards and will do so as many times as Albert will let her. She also loves to stand on Albert’s belly still and jump while holding his hands. The “Hop on Pop,” The best though is how she is really into dancing, initially copying Curie, but more recently being graceful as she dances in any space with music. Much of this is inspired by Beauty and the Beast, but with both girls’ interest in ballet, they are their mother’s daughters.

Part of dancing for Elia is to sing songs so that there is music to dance and she is in that part where she makes up her own songs with very sophisticated lyrics like: “the world is not how it should be, for me.” We are not sure where they come from but it is evident that she is listening to everything and paying attention to everything. Albert plans on writing a little song for Elia just as he did for Curie when she was a baby (Curie asks for that song from time to time, so it only seems fair that Elia has one too).

Right around the time Curie graduated from kindergarten, our preschool asked if they could put Elia into the other classroom so that the older kids were in one and the younger were in the other. Though we were apprehensive, it has turned out well and so Elia graduated into Preschool 2 with new teachers and new friends – her friend Eva went to a new school at the same time. She is very proud of being big and going to the new class.

Because we are taking Curie to camp. we necessarily have had to change our commute once again taking two cars. This has meant Albert is driving Elia to school and Erin is driving Curie to camp resulting in each parent spending more time with each kid. Elia has been saying, “its just you and me” to Albert a lot, especially when Erin takes Curie to reading class on Saturdays. We probably need to address this and spend more time with the other child this summer. Elia is also insisting on having her lesson each night because Erin is working on reading with Curie.

While Curie has been in reading class, Albert has been spending time with Elia building big Lego structures around her and pretending she is Moana and the like. She seemed genuinely sad for a moment when Albert said that Erin and Curie were on their way home, but was instantly delighted when they came through the door, showing us that the kids need our attention and need the attention of each other.

Elia continues to idolize Curie, at the same time pushing Curie as Elia tries to interact and do the things that Curie does. Most of the time though they play mother and baby, or queen and princess or some game together. It is wonderful for them to play together and learn to share, though at times they find themselves in places where they need to work out differences, also healthy.

Both girls loved Sesame Place with Elia loving the first water slide, then tired, was traumatized by the waterfall at the lazy river and then again by the giant waterslide with the raft. She then got over it after playing in the sand box for a while and then getting drenched at the Ernie’s water table. At the end of the day when, again tired, she was overwhelmed by the other water thing with the Count. Both kids loved the park with the rockets being Elia’s favorite ride and though she got her foot caught in the netting, loved to jump on the ropes.  We went around the Fourth of July, but Elia remembering the noise of the fireworks at the Hoaglands the year before remarked pointedly: “fireworks are a little scary to me.”

We went to Huntley Meadows with Isabella’s family and had water balloon fights with the fast filing water balloons. She has been having fun with our plants outside waiting for fruit and vegetables to grow. One weekend we found a yellow and a red tomato and picked them waiting for Curie to share them. She initially wanted to eat them both, but when reminded that we wanted to wait for Curie was eager to share. In general, Elia is eager to share.

It is at once both fleeting and full of pride to watch our kids grow. Elia no longer sleeps with pull-ups for instance and has had only two accidents overnight. She talks about her Minnie birthday (we were talking about mini-birthdays, like we had talked about little birthdays for Curie around Elia’s birthday, but Elia heard it as Minnie), where we plan to wrap their existing toys, invite friends and each get one new toy. She is growing and yet she is cute and helps us fill with wonder looking with her eyes. This time is precious and we appreciate every moment and every day we have with our kids.

Curie June 2017

So Curie graduated kindergarten; there wasn’t a cute ceremony with mortars and tassels, but it was a big deal anyway. Albert did not go to the beginning of his conference to be there when school got out; when he got there, the teachers and all the staff were waiting in the hall to give students hugs and congratulations. Mrs. Best, who is rumored to be retiring, told Curie to “persevere” which Curie has taken very much to heart. Mrs. Campbell is also leaving to go wherever her husband is stationed, so Elia will have a different kindergarten teacher.

That weekend, Albert went to Phoenix for work, and Erin’s parents came down to help out. The girls got haircuts to their shoulders which is significant since their hair had come down their backs before the haircut. Albert was worried since they liked braids and playing princess and queen, but Curie said “I look beautiful!” Alaying any fears.

Curie also began sleeping in her own bed for a few days after sleeping with Albert in the guest room for a while. Her comment was “I am a first grader now.” But with Albert gone at his conference, he wasn’t there to sit next to her as she fell asleep so got lonely in her room and went back to the “big bed.”

The end of kindergarten has meant the start of camp(s), where Curie started the summer with martial arts camp at EVA for two weeks. There she was so proud to be a white belt with stripe and standing in the front row because with the start of camp there were a number of new kids; tiger tots, no-belts, and white belts. Curie just needs her black tip to test for her yellow belt, but since she is going to Congressional Camp for the summer, it will likely take place after she returns. It was a little sad for us that she left martial arts for the summer, but to be fair, the other camps are pretty interesting. So much so that Erin made the comment that she wanted to go herself.

Mrs. Best also recommended that we keep up Curie’s reading, so we enrolled her into a summer reading program on Saturdays for five weeks where she and Erin would go and practice on Curie’s reading and work on it each night of the week.

Curie has been a trooper, working on her emotion control when she is tired, being remarkable when she is not tired. On the field trip to the Air and Space museum, Albert gave Curie $20 to spend on snacks there, and while Mr. Andre did not let the kids go to McDonalds there, he did let them go to the gift shop. Curie came home with a plastic space shuttle for Elia and nothing for herself. You know why? A long time ago, Curie got that space shuttle, her rocket, at the museum and Elia got a little die cast one; later when they were playing, Elia was upset because she didn’t have the plastic one. This was two years ago. We even bought Elia one later because she was so upset. This must have made an impression on Curie because she bought it because she remembered that Elia wanted it back in the day. Curie has a really good heart (so does Elia) and earned her yellow tip with that.

So Curie is growing up and she has new friends at kindergarten, and is going to go to camp with her old friends from preschool. She loves to wear her tsum tsum dress and her purple shopkins dress. She plays queen or mother with Elia, names her play acting “Rosa” these days. Loves little kids and makes it a point to take care of them. This summer she wants to go to the beach, ideally with Eleanor and Miranda, and will learn a lot at camp. She watches too much TV, though we have moved her and Elia to Netflix from “eggs” where she has started watching a broader range of shows than just “Sarah and Duck.” One morning though, Albert asked if she would snuggle instead of watch and the two of them slept on the couch together for hours instead.

Finally, two Curie quotes: Erin said one night “we’re going to have an eat whatever you want night,” To which Curie replied, “does that mean left-overs?” And, in describing our plants we are growing on our porch (we had little strawberries but the squirrels ate them, but our tomatoes have given us two which the girls ate): “That’s our strawberries, that’s our pumpkin, that’s our Chinese food (the Chinese “watercress” that we have been growing). That cracked us up. 

Elia June 2016

The girls are amazing, they are still whiney and frustrating at times, but truly they are amazing. Both girls have had a growth spurt with half an inch in a month. Elia wears Curie’s iconic old clothes making for a double take on occasion for both of us.

Elia continues to be cute and a laugh riot every day, she is also very aware and surprisingly sophisticated for her age. She still doesn’t have her “r’s” yet and her “c’s” are largely “t’s” and her “g’s” are “d’s” but don’t be fooled, her development is going crazy and she is sharp as a tack behind those words.

In the car Erin was pretending to cry about something to make a point and Elia spoke up and said Erin: “is this a big problem or a little problem?” Which came out “dis big pwoblem or little pwoblem.” And like the time she quoted us on smiling to be pretty/beautiful, i goes to show she is always listening and absorbing.

She knows what we value as a family as well. When driving with Albert she said: “you and me spending time together. Then when Erin came, she said “whole family spending time together.” And though Curie wasn’t there yet, she does not forget her. She said of Curie when giving us a hug: “Curie is the best sister in the whole world. I give her big hugs, squeezy hugs, Curie doesn’t like squeezy hugs but I do..” Albert said ” we miss Curie right?” Elia replied “that is because we love her so much.”

She tells Erin: “Mommy, why your drink not smell very good?” And holds her nose when thing smell even remotely bad. Her syntax is adorable with “please I open it?” to mishearing words and saying “Really, please?” When she means “pretty please?” In addition to being adorable with her speech and insisting on wearing her “Belle dress” every day, she also gives puppy dog eyes on demand.

Elia wants to keep up with Curie, wanting to celebrate her score too when we were celebrating Curie’s rise in score in reading at kindergarten. When she “reads” books out loud she speaks very slowly like Curie does when she is reading, like she is sounding out the words, but she is just reciting them.

We love watching her sing, she is very expressive, shaking her head on the loud notes and holding her hands up. She loves to ask us to dance too, wanting to be graceful and princess-like. She will make up songs at will going so far as to make up lyrics of an old soul like: “the world is not what it is meant to be for me.” She was drinking her pho broth with a straw and she said: “When I drink with this, my heart feels better.”

There is much wisdom coming from this little girl, and at the same time she sleep talks about broccoli, and when she is tired she will flop down and cry and when she cries she will let Albert pick her up and spend time in bed Monument on the iPad together.

Albert remembers deciding that greatness was going to be more than fame and influence, but rather working at being a good husband and father would be the greatest achievement. We won’t know until years from now if we did well or not, but we are hoping that as adults reading this then, that both girls will nod and say we did a good job.

When we started writing this draft, we had not yet sold the house and times were challenging for Albert at work it was to have started: “For the record, these are challenging times for us trying to resolve an issue with our house so that we can close on it. Emotions are raw, patience is stretched thin and the breaking point seems just around the corner. If we didn’t have kids to balance everything out things would be a lot worse.” The appreciation is still there but things are better now.

Curie May 2017

Back in November, we wrote about Curie being the youngest in her class (and school) and that Bright Horizons in Skyline had not prepared her as well for kindergarten in Fairfax as it could have. Mrs. Best reassured Albert that Curie would be fine. Well, Mrs. Best called Erin yesterday to tell us that on Curie’s developmental reading test that Curie scored a 187/193, a huge jump from her score of 90 when she started. We are so proud of her. Note, this follows countless hours of parental worry, diligence from Mrs. Best and Mrs. Campbell and hard work on everyone’s part, especially Curie’s!

We are grateful to Curie’s teachers and proud of Curie’s hard work. We made a cake to celebrate, but the cake mix was expired, so Albert went out late at night to get another one so that Curie could have her cake.

Cure has taken to her Tsum tsum dress as much as Elia with her Belle dress. It is flattering on her, and lets her twirl, but we suspect there is more. It is red and reminds her of Wonder Woman, and oddly she has made it a point to say that it isn’t fair that Elia gets to be Belle all of the time (we have not bought a Belle dress for Curie yet, but we might just to make it fair).

We have seen Beauty and the Beast four times in the theater now. This most recent time, we had to sit in seats apart (amazing that the movie can be almost full right before it will release for purchase). Curie wanted to sit with Albert and the two of them had a little daddy and daughter date. When we left she was intent on telling Albert that he is her prince – the same way Elia says it to her and when Elia said “You are my Beast.”

This month too Erin took Curie to two field trips, one to the National Zoo, to which Albert met the with Elia. The whole district went and while the kids had blue t-shirts, so did their entire school. One of Curie’s classmates was good and listened, but the other two kept wandering off. Curie was hungry when we arrived and insisted on seeing the ponies first, as her parents we did it. There was only two hours, which was really not enough to do very much. Erin also chaperoned the trip to the Natural History Museum which was easier, with just the kindergarteners going and Erin’s group being much smaller.

We spent time on Burke Lake, with Curie and Albert in one boat and Erin and Elia in another. Curie did seem to get a little bored by the end, but she really wanted to row even though we had a motor. In the end we blew bubbles and had a nice time. Along the same lines, we went to Huntley meadows and saw the animals, with Elia and Curie each finding a snake, and both pretending the tower was a castle. This was the month we had live crawfish and the kids picked out all the dead ones before boiling them. We staycationed at the Sheraton, and somehow got Susie and Isabella to come along Curie’s friend Etta even came to swim! We went to Curie’s schools entertainment day, saw Bella’s play and much more. At the end of the month Albert went to Cambridge to attend a certificate program at Harvard and Erin’s mother came down to take care of everyone.

In the middle of the month we noted that Curie has been turning to crying again when things don’t go her way and we could see that it was correlated with needing more sleep and eating better. More to the end of the month though she seems to be better about it, hopefully that means she is getting more sleep and eating better.

Curie has been getting more and more thoughtful. She has always been a sensitive, conscious girl, but recently she has taken to offering massages when we say we are tired. Of course this also means she wants one too and loves to get her back rubbed saying “ah, what a nice massage.” With reading she has begun reading to Elia, especially reading Green Eggs and Ham to Elia (which they have both memorized). Curie is growing up but she is still a little girl in many ways, playing with dolls, wanting to have playdates with us, and being unable to say “ravioli (raviloli)” and laughing about it.

Curie is a joy, a wonderful big sister, a great student, friend and daughter. We are proud not just because we are parents, but because in many ways we can look up to her and let our child remind us as a role model for appreciating life.